Social Intelligence for Christian Singles

Outline points borrowed from “The Five Love Languages”


1. Be positive, kind and filter your words.
Ephesians 4:29

2. God created us all with emotional fuel tanks.
Your interaction makes a deposit or a withdrawal.
Hebrews 10:24, 1 John 4:11

3. Listen attentively with eye contact and validate what a person says… “What did you think” or “How did that make you feel?” Ask good questions and then listen carefully.
Proverbs 20:5

4. Lead conversations in the direction of ideas.
Proverbs 11:11-13
Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people.

5. Avoid being rigid or having all the answers.
James 1:19, Proverbs 21:2, Proverbs 18:13

6. Don’t keep a conversation centered on yourself, it reflects insecurity.
Philippians 2:3-5, Proverbs 27:2, Proverbs 9:7

7. A monologue is not a conversation. Know when to stop talking … be aware when you have lost someone’s attention.
Proverbs 21:2

8. Let your spirituality be seen through your lifestyle. Avoid “god talk” or spiritual cliches. Matthew 6:16

9. Body language impacts your words. Respect other peoples space – don’t stand too close.
Proverbs 9:13

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